This is a very interesting little book that discusses the issue of the difficulties that men, particularly young men, are having in the dating world today. This is something that would seem to be known but is not discussed that much. Part of the reason is because it is only part of the group of difficulties that men are having today. They include lowered labor force participation. They also include a considerably lower percentage of college attendance and degrees earned today compared to women. And they also include a considerably lower level of academic achievement in K-12 schooling compared to girls.

Nonetheless, dating difficulties for many young men are an issue today and this book goes into those issues. Perhaps the clearest evidence of this is in a chart that the author provides in his first chapter which reproduces a chart from the Pew Research Center on US adults who say they are single. It says that 63% of men versus 34% of women ages 18–29 say they are single. On the surface, this would seem like an implausible result, given that the numbers of young men and young women do not differ by much. The author does provide his take on how this could be the case, but in any event it does demonstrate the issue.

The book is divided into an introduction and 10 chapters, that the author calls commandments, given the title of the book. Each of the first 9 chapters focus on an aspect of why the dating landscape is difficult for young men. The 10th chapter goes over the author’s ideas on how to improve chances despite the disadvantages listed in the first 9 chapters. While I wonder about the viability of the suggestions in that last chapter, it is in the information provided on the individual aspects described in the first 9 chapters where I find the real value of this book.

In my experience, it is not easy to find all of these aspects described in such a comprehensive and concise way. The chapters that I found most interesting were the ones on demographics, the difficulties caused by the shift to online dating, and the chapters having to do with the attitudes of women today. The information in the chapter on demographics is fascinating. In general, it is well known that under normal circumstances, a little more than 51% of the babies born will be male. The author shows how recent factors have made this basic demographic variable more difficult for young men than in the past and, in particular, provides a number of population pyramids.

The chapter on online dating provides the author’s contention that men’s looks have become a much more significant factor as a result of the increased prevalence of online dating. And the various references to women’s attitudes today shows how that has contributed to the issue of dating difficulties for men.

Overall, I found this to be a very interesting book with much good information gathered into a small volume and with a lot of very useful interpretations of the information provided by the author. The author has clearly done a lot of good thinking about this subject.

I love books like this, ones by authors who aren't well known and so put their heart and soul into their works with knowledge that would normally be outside our spectrum. With major publishers and media it would be forbidden, as the truth is sometimes hard to handle for a lot of people. I think that adds value to the read as it is no holds barred and not political correct, but being positive enough to explain and show how to overcome dating problems for people of all ages, even though it is mostly aimed at younger people it is still relevant for all.

Hidden secrets are in this book about how women approach dating in the new era and how men can use this to find their ideal partner, knowledge is power so to speak. Wheat Waffles obviously has put his heart and soul into producing this and it is good for basically anyone looking to improve themselves and their understanding of the dating world in 2025…including older men.

I'm surprised that me being 46 (47 in April) and approaching my 50s that I came across such things as Blackpill, I have 2 kids so I am not an incel, however the dating landscape has changed in the last decade I've been out of it. Hence building up my knowledge of what is happening is a good thing.